And She’s Back…

 

 

Hello Beautiful People,

How the hell are you?  Hopefully, you are doing well and are keeping your head way above water, successfully.

As for me,  I am slowly feeling like myself again.  You know how it is…Shit just happens, no need to go into grave details about it.  It’s just sometimes we need to take a step back from our regular routine and examine our lives and put things back into perspective.  And sometimes that is easier said than done.

We sometimes cannot understand the sadness that comes over us and we try like hell to get over it on our own, however, sometimes taking a step back and isolating others, out of fear of taking out our frustrations on others may not be the answer.  But we weather the storm and hopefully pull ourselves out of the dump and return to society.  That be me now and going forward. (Hence, she’s back…)

I know that I do not have to tell/remind you that sometimes “this thing called life,” can be challenging, unpredictable and quite stressful.  Dealing with stress is not an easy task for it causes one to pull away from family members and friends.  Pulling away and putting distance between those we love sends them mixed messages, causing them (your loved ones and friends) pain and suffering.  You may think that hey, “I’m doing them a favor by not sharing what’s on my mind,” or “Not sharing your problems,” because you feel that if you do so you will prompt one or many of these feelings:

  • Looking like a loser
  • Family/Friend won’t understand
  • Will prompt unnecessary advice or obvious solutions
  • Fear of ruining your relationship/friendship

Most often when things go wrong, and when Life decides to throw a monkey wrench in your not so perfect world, but a quite manageable one.   You feel foolish for not being prepared in the event something goes wrong.

When it comes to talking with a family member or a friend one could find this to be a complicated, because thoughts like, “If I confide in them, what will they think of me?,” “Will confiding in said family member or friend, results in them sharing my feelings with someone else (another family member or other mutual friends?”) and (“Can really trust them?”)

And ewww, I can’t begin to express just how pissy I become when someone yo)u decide to confide in, and you begin to speak not completely explaining your situation when the party you’re confiding in decides to cut you off and offer their opinion.  And their solution as to what you should do.  You’re like, “That’s nice, however, if you had let me to finished you would see how that solution you offered has already been tried, or you would see that I already tried that and it made matters worse.”  At this point, the other person is blue in the face and quickly changes the subject.  So much for sharing.

Lastly having the fear of damaging your relationship (with a loved one or friend). This can also apply to a family member who offers up what you should do, or they don’t understand why you are having such a hard time.

It is in my opinion that Life has either shown or has taught some of us a valuable lesson on what part of our lives we should share and what parts of our lives should not be shared.  It is important to keep in mind that our Family and friends (good friends-of which most of us have one or two, in which we can depend upon and share anything with), are not problem solvers, however, sometimes sharing your feelings with one member can relieve some stress and tension.  Most importantly when you decide to share your feelings with someone, it is important to:

Really know that person and know in your heart that they are on your team, and are trustworthy.  And this doesn’t mean that they are the type that is going to agree with you when they know you are wrong. (News Flash: NOT A FRIEND) There is nothing worse than confiding in someone and have others look at you strangely because your business has been put out there.  Second, don’t share all your business, just share what really bothers you.  Or better yet share the solution, (i.e. you are unemployed and funds are running low. The problem is obvious, you stress that you may not find employment before your funds run out, that’s all that needs to be shared). Put out the word what your needs are because the number one priority is finding employment, not how you lost the job and blah, blah, blah.

We also learned from “this thing called Life,” is that it is very unhealthy to hold things in.  But you have a fear of talking to others or you find that you are unable to articulate your feelings, properly to others.  Then go another route.  Yes, there is therapy or a psychiatrist, however, the fear of sharing your life may occur and you wind up talking about everything except what’s bugging you.

I find it therapeutic to write entries in my autobiography. (You fellow writers, will get a kick out this).  I read an article some time ago, by Michael Lewis, “4 Reasons Why You Should Write An Autobiography or Personal Memoir,” and it got me thinking how this may help me, help myself.  Writing an autobiography or Personal Memoir, allows me to deal with my issues.  Writing the words down allows me to examine my situation, express my feelings about them without the worry that someone is going to interject, give me an unfavorable stare or offer solutions that are just preposterous.  This may not help you, however, I thought I would throw it out there.  Why not give it try, next time you feel yourself pulling away from those you love and care about.  Hey, what can it hurt?

Although the autobiography or memoir may never be finished or published, (because the story ends upon my death), at least it is a therapeutic remedy to what ails me and gives me a different outlook on “this thing called life.”  More importantly, there will no longer be a reason to push away loved ones, and friends, with the end result being losing them forever.

I thought it appropriate to add Prince’s “Let’s Go Crazy,” as my sign off. Feels good to be back!

 

Lois “Depurplelady” Percente

 

 

 

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High Protein Shrimp Burrito Bowl

Hello There,

Well if you’ve been following me, then you know three things about me, and they are as follows:

  1. I’m very Vain!-What can I say, I care about the way I look and looking good is very high on my list.  Therefore, I try very hard to maintain an exercise regime, along with eating right and doing anything and everything that needs to be done in order to keep the weight I’ve lost off.
  2.   I am a crazy (in a fun way) Lesbian who is both a mom (1 lovely and spoiled son Steven and a great wife, Joanne, who spoils me terribly.)
  3. I am a writer who took the leap and published one book and have at least 10 first drafts on books that I have not completed.  You know how that goes when one loves what they do and ideas come into play and you get them down before you forget.
  4.  Then another idea comes to mind and bam, there you are typing away again.  Life gets in the way and you never seem to find the time to get back to you what you began.  It doesn’t mean that story has died, it’s just that you don’t have the strength to see them through.  Or maybe you enjoy having that one thing that is just yours, and yours alone.

Getting back to business here, I was going through my emails today and I came across this lovely find that I just had to share with you guys.  High-Protein Shrimp Burrito Bowl, now I’ve tried to understand the difference between vegan and vegetarian but there are so many different answers for vegans that I’ve thrown my hands up and developed my own definition  for vegans.

With that said,  I’ve taken certain meats out of my diet, and now I eat only small amounts of chicken and turkey.  But I consume a lot of fish,tuna, salmon, shrimp and crabs or crab meat.  Which is why when I received this email with the recipe for High-Protein Shrimp Burrito Bowl from MyFitnessPal, that I did a happy dance, so without further ado, I give you the recipe.  Just look at it, doesn’t it look delicious?

High-Protein Shrimp Burrito Bowl

For the cilantro black beans and rice

  • 3/4 cup (135 grams) uncooked long-grain brown rice (certified gluten-free if necessary)
  • 1 1/2 cups (355 grams) water
  • 1 (15.5-ounce or 420 grams) can black beans, rinsed and drained (certified gluten-free if necessary)
  • 1/4 teaspoon grated lime zest
  • 1 tablespoon lime juice
  • 1/4 cup (5 grams) chopped fresh cilantro

For the burrito bowl

  • 1 teaspoon canola oil
  • 1 medium (55 grams) onion, sliced
  • 2 medium (240 grams) bell peppers, sliced
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons ground cumin
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1 pound (455 grams) medium shrimp, peeled and deveined
  • 2 cups (95 grams) loosely packed chopped romaine lettuce
  • 1 medium (125 grams) tomato, seeded and chopped
  • 1 medium (150 grams) ripe avocado, diced

Directions

Prepare cilantro black beans and rice. Combine rice and water in a medium saucepan. Bring to a boil over high heat; reduce heat to low and simmer, covered, for 35–40 minutes, or until tender. Stir in black beans; cook 2–3 minutes until heated through. Stir in lime zest, lime juice and cilantro. Set aside and keep warm.

While rice cooks, heat oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat, swirling to coat. Add onion, bell peppers, garlic, cumin and salt. Cook 3 minutes, covered and stirring occasionally, until vegetables are tender. Stir in shrimp; cook 2–3 minutes, stirring often.

Place 1 cup rice and bean mixture in each of 4 bowls. Top each with 1 1/4 cups shrimp and vegetable mixture. Top each serving evenly with romaine, tomato and avocado.

Nutrition Information

Serves: 4 Serving Size: 1 cup beans and rice + 1 1/4 cups shrimp and vegetables + 1/2 cup lettuce + 1/3 cup chopped tomato + 1/4 cup avocado

Per serving: Calories: 450; Total Fat: 9g; Saturated Fat: 1g; Monounsaturated Fat: 5g; Cholesterol: 172mg; Sodium: 452mg; Carbohydrate: 56g; Dietary Fiber: 13g; Sugar: 4g; Protein: 34g

Nutrition Bonus: Potassium: 994mg; Iron: 31%; Vitamin A: 83%; Vitamin C: 139%; Calcium: 14%

I myself am not a rice person per say, I do enjoy fried rice-so if there is anyone who has a great low fat recipe for shrimp fried rice, please email me at purplesilkykisses@gmail.com.  I hope you enjoy this recipe, I will keep them coming…LP

Source: MyFitnessPal (please see the above link for the web address).

A Prescription For Love…

BiRacial couple #7

Listen without interrupting,

Speak without accusing,

 Give without sparing

Pray without ceasing,

Answer without arguing,

Share without pretending,

Enjoy without complaint.

(Author Unknown)

S

 

Say It Ain’t So!!!!

Ellen and Portia vintageTongues are truly flapping and the social media rags are  all talking about Ellen and Portia DeGeneres’ doomed marriage.  It appears that the two women after seven years of marriage are calling it quits.  I am hoping with the deepest of all sincerity that this isn’t so, but more than one social media rag has the same story causing me to dig deeper to find whether the rumors are true or fabricated.

According to many media rags, Portia is dating one of her “Scandal” co-stars Matthew Del Negro.  You know the guy who plays Cyrus’ husband on Scandal. Matthew Del Negro 2 Isn’t that ironic that Portia is believed to having an affair or is now dating a co-star who plays a gay character.  Another thing which would make this scenario even worst, or a kick in the head for Ellen, is that she was the one, who got Portia the role she plays on Scandal in the first place, by pulling strings.  And to be repaid by having an affairs would be unforgivable. Matthew Del Negro 1

Still as I mentioned this is all just hear-say, once I see it in People Magazine or on TMZ I will continue to hope that these two women are still working on their relationship and eventually prove that these recent rumors are false.  Here’s to Ellen and Portia, may you guys find the solution to all that ails your relationship and may you two continue to love and grow as one.

Lois P.

Crossing Ts & Dotting Is for Valentine’s Day-Sexually That Is

Sexy image of womenWhich do you prefer wild animalistic sex or making love?  In my personal experience both are necessary and both are fun.  But just like anything in life, there’s a time for having wild animalistic sex and there’s a time for having intimate, sensual love-making. Now as far as which time is best for which sexual rendezvous…well Sweeties that’s definitely yours and your mate’s call.

While drinking and talking with a couple of my girlfriends one night, we somehow got on the subject about sex. We all agreed that the best sex comes after drinking and when making up after a fight.  When the subject of what type of sex is performed, hands down we all replied, “That animalistic, can’t get enough of you, and gotta have you and all of you” type of sex is what we perform with our mates. #Animalistic? Yes, yes, yes!

We also agreed that most women reserve love-making for those special days, such as  birthdays, anniversaries and holidays.  Speaking of holidays-Valentine Day is just around the corner.  (What do you have planned for your special gal?)

Once again I have KitschMix to thank for their story entitled, “The Difference Between ‘Having Sex’ & ‘Making Love’: 9 Intimate Positions ALL Lesbian Couples Should Try,” that you simply must read.  Not only does this article contain pictures (cartoon animations for you shy gals), and easy instructions.  Definitely a good read, and or a quick reference for those of you who are planners, 🙂  Maybe you’ll find a great position for Valentine’s Day, hmmm.

It goes without saying that good sex is rewarded with great climaxes.  So I thought it only fitting to also include this article entitled, “11 Types of Orgasms a Woman Can Have,” also found on the KitschMix website.  Just giving you something to think about while putting together your Valentine’s Day surprise for your lady.

Lois

 

 

Lesbian-licious!

Health & FitnessLove is LoveDuring the last couple of days I have come across quite a few interesting lesbian topics.  I have to tell you they were not only informative but eye-brow raising, seductive and plain old blush worthy. You know how when you come across some juicy information and you can not wait to share it with your BFF?  Well, that was my thought processing when I came across these articles.

The first article entitled, “20 Greatest Girl on Girl Sex Scenes of Al Time,” by Rebekah Allen on Pride’s website.  This article is absolutely sexy, and focuses on various love scenes from different shows from the present and the past. All of which are quite sexy.  The author invites you to submit any additional scenes that you may know of and are not shown in her article.   All I can say is “Yum!”

The next article I came across was featured on The Advocate’s website and is for those of you who enjoy reading (not just lesbian books).  The article is entitled, “The 30 Best Books You Missed in 2015,” author unknown.  I enjoyed this article because it got straight to the point by showing the author, the actual book and a summary.  Giving the reader of the article ample information to add to their lists of books they must have.  Awesome!

Lastly my new favorite magazine, Kitschmix posted two different articles about the lesbians and bisexuals in Hollywood, both equally good.  The first article entitled, “Top 11 Lesbians And Bisexual Women In Hollywood Right Now” and the other entitled, “21+ Out Celebrity Couples Who Were Absolutely Perfect For One Another In 2015.”

Well that’s all I have for now. I hope you enjoy them and if you happen to come by some interesting topics, please do share.

Until tomorrow, Lois

 

I’m loving KitschMix!

 

Nice pic right?  Well, there’s a story behind it.  I guess I should be thankful that I ventured with (my old blog- Essence of Pride), for it afforded me the opportunity to check out many other LGBT sites and pages on FaceBook.  Which is how I happened upon KitschMix, whoa, hot damn and yes are the words that come to mind when describing this site.
I have found so many interesting reads here that are relevant, exciting and just non-stop entertainment worthy.  This particular pic, is entitled, “Ten Tantalising Sex Positions You And Your Girlfriend Need To Try” which is followed by a lovely quirky write-up and pics of every position mentioned within the article.  It is definitely a website in which one can find subject matters pertaining to so many different topics and life experiences that we as lesbians have either experienced or will experience during our life-time.
You’re probably wondering whether or not I’m getting paid to say this, and the answer is no, hence my tagline: “From a lesbian’s POV.”   But hey, I invite you to click on either of the two links above to see for yourself.  I promise you won’t be disappointed.  LP